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May 23, 2019 at 8:10 am #56087
Getting past the shame people try to pile on you, writes Paul Hanley in LifeTimes magazine, can be as easy as looking at yourself through the eyes of
[See the full post at: Being Fearless]
May 23, 2019 at 12:49 pm #56093
When I found NARSOL I finally found a place to learn. When I volunteered for NARSOL, I found deeper purpose beyond being part of an audience. When Brenda asked me if I would be willing to launch a Fearless Group in my area, I was reluctant at first. The “what if’s” of justified paranoia ran through my head. But I realized, if I want to see real change, and find real connection, I had to take a bigger leap forward. Six weeks into our new Fearless group I feel like I’m actually giving back and joining the fight!
It is a modest group to date, but I admire the others for their own courage to seek connection. It’s like I’ve known them forever because, where it counts the most, their story is my story. I’m not feeling alone anymore.
I would encourage everyone who follows NARSOLs awesome efforts to inform, connect, and advocate to join a Fearless group if on exists near you. If there is none, then start one. It’s not hard, anyone can do it, including family members or friends who support you and your struggle. There are nearly one million of us, and most all have one to five family or friends who would want to help if they could. Imagine 5million Fearless Fighters accross this country as a force of change. This may be our best opportunity to contribute to change. Charlie, NARSOL moderator.
May 23, 2019 at 5:52 pm #56099
Inspiring post. And great back up from Charlie. May everyone continue to heal.
May 24, 2019 at 11:21 pm #56140
It strikes this follower of NARSOL as queer concept that in the HOME OF THE BRAVE, ” Fearless groups” are finding difficulty forming. The ” fearless” people do not exist. Databases are absolutely fearless as they are not human.
SOR evolved out of an errant promise by our leadership that the USE of the machine was going to be a panacea for prevention of sexual attack. Justified by fear itself. Undoubtedly intentionally promoted by LEO, and associates downstream evidenced via Byrne Grants, to advance the causes of big data surveillance saints. It failed precisely because ” intentions ” we’re not saleable nor salient in the first cause.
Thus the notorious RBG noted the queered nature of “the presumption that recidivism can be a legislative statutory concern” at all. Her point being the textual basis of ex post lies in the limit on the ONLY ONE BRANCH.
June 11, 2019 at 10:22 pm #56682
I sympathize with your sentiments on how ironic it is that in “The Home of the Brave,” Fearless groups are finding difficulty forming. You make a good point too that the machines are “fearless.” Yes, but they also lack courage. All machines can do is programmed into them by perfectly imperfect humans. The people I meet in Fearless groups are not “Fearless” in some abstract, mathematical sense of the term. They are better than that: Fearless members feel fear, but again and again act fearlessly in spite of this viscerally, paralyzingly, primordially challenging emotion.
I submit that the main difficulty forming Fearless groups is that most people on the registry, and most of our loved ones, are not even aware Fearless groups exist, let alone what Fearless groups are and how they can be formed and maintained. I further submit that all we need to do to fix this problem is get the word out together with links to further information such as my article above, as well as a contact email for NARSOL at: firstname.lastname@example.org – The amazing people at NARSOL, with their years of experience, can then help potential Fearless groups overcome the other practical obstacles to setting up and running these groups.
Yes, the “enemy,” if that’s what you want to call the registry machine, is fearless. But only in an eviscerated, emotionally empty meaning of the word “fearless.” More and more HUMAN Fearless meetings are springing up around the country. We will only be defeated if we stop trying.
May 24, 2019 at 11:24 pm #56143
Heel ! I guess Sometimes one find’s out what intials stand for such as “Military Police” or PA as in Public Attorney, course dont’ quote me on intials as letters or initials mean something to someone, but what is the letter of ther law or is man’s law the main authority in a lot of this hodge pouge of Justice…?
A lot of this whole ordeal is like a “Murder she wrote” of a TV series, Do we all have warning signs in many of these ordeals. Yes their are two side’s to every story but healing is the best.
We already have “Hate” Crimes in America in many ordeals of bias Law and Order, even the black list from the past several decades. Someone even brought up the Jim Crow law. Is the Sex offender the topper of all this murder with a cause, or an overt inducement with a cause, or is it a way to sway a man or woman with this unethical means. Could a lot of us look at the sex registry as “inducement type of punishment” or is it justified by callous actions on both party’s.
Everything works if you work it. At times one wonders if one is a panalist of a game show such as “Whats my line”, “I’ve got a secert” or “To tell the Truth” so either one wins at jepordy or we take it to People’s Court. Who wants to go up to anothe and say I’m a sex offender in general public or are they the bias one? We all face struggles and barriers in many endeavors of life at times.
My dad once said “if you can’t say anything good about anyone don’t say it at all. Politics, I try not to get involved or even vote because in the long run they say they are all crooks I never thought I would be on here or I’m sure Marilyn Manroe would be on the cover of Playboy in that era, but thats reality. Can we all look at some of this sex registry as invasion of the boty snatchers or I was a teenaged wearwolf. Protecting is good but putting a scarlet letter on someone isn’t feasible and more of a bondage type of issue that scar’s..
Sure fearless groups are good for understanding and reasoning and to comfort each other . We all have our ups and downs with family matters and Hate issues but love and forgivness are the best medicine. One wonders if one “thinks” to highly of his or her person.
While stepping out to help others is a blessing in disguise and it needs to be done properly. Fearless groups are good to help in many issues we all face with this sex offender encounter.
Sure speaking out is good and so is watchig what one says or do people try words in many of these callous ordeal.
January 20, 2021 at 11:56 am #79875
The There is a suggestion of possible groups being set up throughout the state. As a registered person, (I was going to say “registered citizen but I really do not feel like a citizen), I would certainly be interested in attending such meetings. I live in Gainesville, Florida, so if ever such a group would form here I would appreciate being notified. I am 74 years old and came to the area after 25+ years of incarceration. I have been “free?” For 12+ years now and a completely compliant registrant, yet I still live in constant fear, not of the public, nor my neighbors, but of somehow violating some new or unknown policy and losing all that I have gained over the years. I am a Viet Nam vet and former Marine and so American that I am now teary eyed watching the playing of the national anthem during the inauguration. Fear is not normal within me and never has been yet it is now a constant companion made manifest by every knock on my door and my occasional nightmares. So again, should such a group come into being in this area please do make it known to me.