BUT … he’s on the sex offense registry

By Sandy . . . We’ve all read the testimonials. He was arrested for embezzlement, but he was a good husband, devoted father, and active community leader. She was discovered to be part of a fraudulent art scam, but her employers praised her as a model employee and asset to the company. We recognize that humans are complex; they can be model citizens in some aspects of their lives but break the law in others.

Except for those labeled sex offenders. With them, there is no “but.”

This was shown clearly when a military hero and Purple Heart recipient, after being given a special honor, was then rejected because he was on the sex offender registry.

And now we have the case of a guidance counselor at a school who has been charged due to having an inappropriate relationship with a student. At her sentencing hearing, she was supported by fellow teachers and administrators from her school. They spoke about her skill as a guidance counselor and her dedication to her job.

And they are being severely criticized for it. They “…should know better than to speak in glowing terms…” about her, this editorial says.

Why? She had been a skilled and caring guidance counselor. She was dedicated to her profession and her school. Yes, she crossed a line that should not be crossed. Yes, she violated the trust that had been placed in her.


The positive testimony given about her is being credited with her receiving a sentence more lenient than what was sought by the prosecutor, who issued a press release expressing her strong disapproval. The situation was also severely criticized by the New Hampshire Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence, who claim that those who supported her showed a lack of concern for the students at their school.

Why is it so hard to recognize that those who break the laws of sexual crime are, just as with all other types of crime, complex human beings who are capable of both good and bad, and that doing bad does not erase or negate the good that one has done in the past or will do in the future?

Or, as recently expressed so well by my esteemed colleague Robin at the conclusion of his recent piece about Thomas Jefferson, “…maybe the story of Thomas Jefferson is teaching us another lesson, one that we so desperately need. Maybe what we see in Jefferson is the capacity of great sinners to coexist with great saints, and often in the exact same body.”

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Sandy Rozek

Sandy is communications director for NARSOL, editor-in-chief of the Digest, and a writer for the Digest and the NARSOL website. Additionally, she participates in updating and managing the website and assisting with a variety of organizational tasks.

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    • #43656 Reply
      Facts should matter

      Even if a sex offender somehow managed to cure cancer, the hateful public would discredit them and invalidate their achievement. That’s how toxic and nuclear the label is! it’s looked upon as the ULTIMATE character flaw and those that sing the praises of a SO’s accomplishments are scoffed at and ridiculed right along with them.

      • #43723 Reply

        Look at how serious and strict our society is about discrimination and bulling anyone. Every one knows how damaging and how dangerous it is. Kids killing kids in schools it is understandable why you cant make fun of anyone or treat anyone differently anymore. You cannot discriminate against someone for their sexual preference. Same sex couples demand that they are looked upon as normal. They are now held up above heterosexuals like they have some magically superior lifestyle. Heterosexuality is not celebrated it is scrutinized as to weather or not it fits the mold and if you fall outside the mold you are destroyed legally. Middle aged men who are attracted to females above 15 years of age and under 50 are looked at like a freaks of nature. I say this country has gone completely insane and the Bible, Science, and nature will back me up. I am not saying it is good or right for a 40 year old male to have sex with a 15 year old. I am talking about desires and attraction these things are not chosen they are built in, and allot closer to normal then men wanting men will ever be. Its not like a man can admit these things to anyone and still have a life. Women keep going on day to day with the fantasy that men’s attraction to females starts at 18 and goes up as they get older and we let them despite the obvious fact that when we were 15 we were chasing 15 year old’s and some of us still remember in great detail our first time and it was with an under aged female. Do I look back with shame hell no do I think I did something unnatural or wrong hell no. I will tell you what I think. Its a scam to rob men of their rights and make a entire group of worker drones that have no life and no other purpose. I think this because it is what is happening. There will be a price for this there always is……

    • #44592 Reply

      Look at the movie The Breakfast Club, remember at the end of the movie Anthony Michael Hall penned a missive saying that the teacher only saw them in the simplest terms, a jock, a cheerleader, a braniac, a head. The teacher is society as a whole. Are you really surprised thirty years later nothing has changed. Clothes change, music changes rapidly but society thoughts as a whole takes a lot longer.

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