Collateral damage — learning to live without regret: Part VII-Conclusion

See also: Part I  Part II  Part III  Part IV  Part V  Part VI Part VII: Getting Better By Daisy . . . I am so proud of my husband for what he has achieved in the face of all of the difficulties and challenges that have confronted him over the past 16 years. Just six years ago, I would not have believed that…

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Collateral damage — learning to live without regret: Part VI

See also: Part I  Part II  Part III  Part IV  Part V Part VI: Accepting reality By Daisy . . . Looking back on our impossible journey, I see now that it was the accrual of tiny little steps—just minute little decisions—that sent us on a trajectory that involved future full-time employment, completed education, home ownership, savings for retirement, and friendships. It’s not everything that…

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Collateral damage — learning to live without regret: Part V

See also: Part I  Part II  Part III  Part IV Part V: A new way of life By Daisy . . . As offenders and collaterally damaged family members know, living with a sex offense conviction is suffocating and paralyzing. It’s like being in a strong current that pulls you deep into a huge, scary ocean where someone else controls the narrative that defines…

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Collateral damage — learning to live without regret: Part IV

See also: Part I  Part II  Part III Part IV: Barely surviving By Daisy . . . Two years later, I had gained a little confidence after finally leaving my retail job for an administrative assistant position, and I had the brilliant idea of picking up where my life left off in 2003. I decided to finally get on with my original…

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Collateral damage — learning to live without regret: Part III

See also: Part I  Part II Part III: And it all came tumbling down By Daisy . . . It was early in the morning on that summer day in 2003 when we heard a knock on our apartment door. As young, success-minded individuals, we were living above our affordability range in an apartment within a beautiful brick home in…

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Collateral damage — learning to live without regret: a story in seven parts

Sell Also Part II  Part III  Part IV  Part V  Part VI   Part VII Part I: Introduction By Daisy . . . I have been wanting to share my story for quite some time, but I could never muster the courage to do so. After keeping it locked inside for an exhausting and difficult 15 years, I finally—and cathartically—confided in a close friend whose…

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New “Special Edition” series beginning May 18

From a gifted writer named Daisy comes a story as intricate and complex as the sexual offense laws themselves. Married to a man arrested and convicted for an internet pornography crime, Daisy takes us with them on a roller coaster ride from the heights of what their lives had been to the depths that life on the registry brings and…

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CA-RSOL challenges Halloween sign requirement for sex offenders

By Marty Graham [Reuters] . . . A paroled sex offender in Southern California sued the state’s Department of Rehabilitation and Corrections on Thursday, arguing that rules imposed on sex offenders during Halloween trick or treating violate his constitutional rights. The complaint, which was filed in federal court and identifies the parolee only as John Doe from San Diego County,…

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When the state becomes church: America’s obsession with prosecuting sex

By Chase Madar . . . Rape and sexual assault often do not get the police attention they deserve in the United States, whether on college campuses, in the military or in major American cities. This isn’t arguable. But sex is vastly overpoliced in this country, and this ought to concern us too. The combination of steroidal law enforcement, puritanical fear…

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