“I’m a child rapist” — a story in four parts: Part I

See also: Part II – Part III – Part IV Part I: Introduction I had the opportunity to share my story recently as a speaker at a Restorative Justice conference. It was the first time outside of treatment that I’ve shared this much of my story and the first time sharing it with an audience in a safe but public environment.…

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“I’m a child rapist” — a story in four parts: Part IV

Part IV: Heroes My story has many heroes. First is my daughter who made this all possible. Without her courage to speak up and report my abuse, we would not be here today. She was 13 years old when she spoke up, and I cannot say often enough how very courageous she was in doing so. She has worked hard…

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“I’m a child rapist” — a story in four parts: Part II

See also: Part I – Part III – Part IV Part II: The seeds of the man are planted in the child We would all love for life to be simple. You’re a this, and he’s a that. She is white, and he is black. Up is up, and down is down. But it just isn’t that simple, that clear, that…

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“I’m a child rapist” — a story in four parts; Part III

See also: Part I – Part II – Part IV Part III: In and through the pain It was almost 20 years ago, when I was 38, that my stepdaughter reported our sexualized relationship that had been ongoing for several years. She told a teacher at school; it was both the worst and best day of my life. It was the…

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