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April 19, 2021 at 1:18 pm #82972
By Sandy . . . Once again, I will receive negative comments about this piece. Once again, I will be reminded that many on the registry live fulfilling
[See the full post at: The extreme difficulty of living as a name on a sexual offense registry]
April 20, 2021 at 6:14 am #82979
Thank you for this article. It’s so very important to share the pain we live in every day. I’m a good person, who found some illegal images online. They should have not been there, but I found them. Now I’m looked at as a pervert sick-o. I have no friends, no love in my life, nothing. I haven’t had a hug in months, no one calls me. I feel I will just disappear at some point. Life lost. More than sad.
April 20, 2021 at 9:41 am #82986
Registered citizen, can you tell me what state you are in?
April 22, 2021 at 6:16 am #83018
Big Hug here.
I am on the registry for the same crime, and I feel for you. Out of all the people I knew, only my daughter has stood by my side. Even people who might want to reach out don’t–what if it became known they had a cup of coffee with me?
I’m not going to tell you it all will get better and all that stuff because when people say it, I’m like, why don’t you stand in my footsteps for awhile and then we’ll talk.
But I can tell you what helped me:
1) finding a therapist. I’ve got to get my life together, and even if a therapist can’t solve all my problems, he or she can help. Mine has also helped me to understand why I did what I did.
2) Get a cat or dog. Pets don’t care about what you’ve done.
3) See if you have skills where you can be your own boss. There are ways to create a business where your name is not associated to the business.
Hope that helps. Stay strong, brother.
April 20, 2021 at 6:15 am #82981
Thank Kalifornia. They built an entrenched system and forgot that this country was built by those ESCAPING tyranny.
April 21, 2021 at 5:54 am #82994
Tim in WI
You really are storming the beach. You know, silicate IS sand, and yes there are bullets whizzing from every angle. That ” the ground” you cross has yet to be recognized for the war zone it is, as a defender to free human republics, guided by God and foremost faith in the common endurance of human liberty against all enemies of meaningful social contract, is tough sledding you still go on.
If no liberty at stake; who would complain?- J.P. Stevens.
Obviously, the database driven infrastructure should have never been aloud to be used to marginalize any human population. That immediately upon it’s birth it was indeed politically used for precisely that very purpose is a keen insight into both human nature and the nature of authoritarian power and emerging markets. Sometimes unfettered access to data is dangerous, and nearly all the states had rules, laws, statutes, to limit disclosure for good reasons.
April 21, 2021 at 12:46 pm #83000
A Mistake They Made
You are not alone big hug to you!
April 24, 2021 at 9:19 am #83040
Wow Sandy, that’s powerful, i still have a hard time understanding how those in society treats people on the registry. People have done from yelling & outing you in public to some wait in your home for you to get home to brutally beat you til your dead. What happened to real rehabilitation instead of throwing them in prison where they still commit crimes locked up. Nobody is a waste of space or should be dead, no. You & me are worth it, it’s those people that treat another human being like crud on the bottom of his shoe. It’s those people who have the problem, they forget that they make mistakes and act like if you make a mistake you can’t be forgiven. But the majority of all religions has a creator and if you ask the creator to forgive you and you are truly sorry, he will forgive you but you can’t forgive another. Some of those people claim to be close to the creator, but cannot forgive? Anyone thinking of suicide Don’t! I know it’s tough I’m on the registry and I’m truly innocent but most don’t believe me. You are important, caring, hardworking, and so much more, we all are Worth it.
April 24, 2021 at 9:23 am #83061
nobody in particular
In most of the “success stories” I’ve read, the individual had both the means, and the support network to overcome, or work around the numerous conditions imposed on “registrants”. And in some cases, they actually had very few, much less intrusive conditions. It’s those of us furthest beneath the boot of the regime, who are completely alone, that must shoulder the full brunt of this animus. And, as I recently experienced, it doesn’t matter whether you do anything wrong, or nothing wrong at all, because once you’ve been branded with That Label, in American society, you are no longer regarded as a human being. You are nothing more than a walking, breathing ‘liability’. I’m not a rapist, or a child molester. I don’t spend my days lurking around parks, or prowling social media in an attempt to lure unsuspecting youth to my den of depravity. In fact, I am so far removed, physically, emotionally, and intellectually, from every community, that it is logistically laughable that I could, or would ever present any danger whatsoever to children, or anyone else at all, for that matter. Such being said, my greatest motivation for simply being alive, is that my very existence is an insult to this entire nation, and I’ve spent so much of my life trying to appease everyone else, that I want to spend the last part of it tending to my own needs and well-being. So, for anyone feeling the pressure this eternal Label carries, my best advise is to give American society the proverbial middle finger, by surviving, staying out of prison, and scraping every last bit of happiness out of whatever bleak little corner you find it. Cherish your family if they still accept and love you, because, in most cases, that is all you may ever have.
April 26, 2021 at 5:16 am #83133
This story resonates with me. I have support, but consider myself to be a burden. I so very feel much
just like the 2nd woman. Why am I here? So that I don’t cause anymore grieving for my mom, otherwise, the faster I pass on, the better.
April 29, 2021 at 6:03 pm #83183
I feel like everyone here, and i feel like no one here! I have a job,a place to live!. for the past 20 years i have not progressed i have not made the most out of my situation i have lived everyday in the prison of my mind waiting for my time to end and hopefully soon i am 62 been on this list since 1995 and thank god i have heart disease! canceled bypass surgery a month ago and all i have that i love is my cat!
May 6, 2021 at 5:10 pm #83289
I feel the same as all of you. I’ve just recently been released from incarceration and am still at the halfway house, but every job I apply to stops the interview when they learn of my felony conviction or my charge.
The biggest drawback I’m seeing isn’t necessarily the registry, but the wording the website uses. Where the plea deals we sign have a simple to the point charge, the registry shows the charge with a complex of words that create the imagery of a ‘monster’. Does it get better?
May 8, 2021 at 12:40 am #83297
nobody in particular