“Alone, Helpless, & Living in Fear”

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      NARSOL
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      This is how it starts: I broke the law once in my life – and it was not an act to consciously hurt someone. All my life I have never wanted, and still
      [See the full post at: “Alone, Helpless, & Living in Fear”]

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      Alex

      An article about disgust, hatred, and banishment of RSOs: http://www.nlg.org/sites/default/files/NLGRev%2071-3%204th%20draft.pdf

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      BOBBY RYE

      I BELIEVE THAT ALL OF US SEX OFFENDERS NEED TO COME TOGETHER AND FIGHT THIS TOGETHER. GO TO THE COURTS AND PROTEST THIS ALONG WITH OUR FAMILY. IF ALL THE SEX OFFENDERS IN THE US CAME TOGETHER WE COULD GET THIS CHANGED. I DO HOWEVER BELIEVE THAT VIOLENT OFFENDERS AND REPEAT OFFENDERS DO NEED TO BE ON THE LIST. BUT FIRST TIME OFFENDERS AND NON VIOLENT SHOULD NOT BE.WE SHOULD BE GIVEN THE SECOND CHANCE AS OTHER FELONS DO.I HAVE BEEN OUT OF PRISON NOW FOR 8 MONTHS AND I HAVE TRIED TO GET A JOB AND IT HAS BEEN A NIGHT MARE. YES THERE ARE SOME THAT NEED TO BE KEPT FROM THE PUBLIC BUT DO NOT PUNISH US ALL FOR ONE PERSON GIVE THE ONES A CHANCE THAT WANT TO DO GOOD A CHANCE TO DO IT.YES KEEP US ON THE LIST UNTIL WE GET OFF PAROLE AND THEN LET US OFF THE LIST SO WE CAN LIVE OUR LIVES IN PEACE.IF WE ALL JOIN FORCE WE CAN CHANGE THIS.

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      Anonymous

      I agree with you that everyone deserves a second chance, however the entire registry needs to be abolished. Why would you release anyone from prison if you are going to tie their hands so they can’t succeed? If they are that violent and that dangerous than don’t let them out. Instead, the state makes it so they have to live under a bridge, can’t find a job, and gets the citizenry riled up to encourage vigilantism.

      The politicians know this, but their reelection is more important than the Constitution.

      Best wishes.

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      Susan

      The sex offender laws and registry go beyond unreasonable. People are released to fail (and maybe that is why). There was the war on drugs and drug offenders were targeted. Then there was the driving laws Sex offender laws started and continued. Next in line is domestic violence. Our constitution was made that when people paid for their crimes they were able to enjoy life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. in the early 1700’s and 1800’s people were driven by fear and didn’t take much to convince people whether they believed it or not. Shaming was not uncommon. What has changed since then. Maybe the creation for more and more useless laws? we could live next to an arsonist, murder, serial killer but that is OK with the public just as long as it is not a RSO. Tell me, what is wrong with this picture???

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      James Townsend

      Bobby Rye Your exactly right. I’m here in Virginia and even thou those on the registry are all bundled in to one big “melting pot” they are all hindered, stigmatized, and ostracized in one way or another. Job outlooks are bleak, housing, family life, and other factors put fear and loneliness in the one’s on the registry. I CHALLANGE

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      Martin

      Yes I agree with you!
      I have a young friend (ex marine) who is on the register. His crime is having an under aged girlfriend. He has served his 2 years prison sentence for his crime and now faces life on the register. He is a good young man that once made a very poor judgement call. I fully accept that his behavior is not acceptable in our society, and those that overstep the boundaries of moral and ethical standards should be accountable for their actions. I also know that like many misguided youth, my young friend never set out to hurt anyone. He always displayed honesty and sincerity towards other human beings and he always displayed respect for those around him. He was raised to know the difference between right and wrong. I know that he would never use poor judgement again as he did in his final year of being a marine. Not alone has the register destroyed his young life, but it has also affected the life of his mother who stands by him through thick and thin so that he can learn to cope with this never ending tether that he has been shackled to. Those that break the law and inflict injury on others must pay for their crimes, and without doubt there are some very dangerous people on the register, but there are thousands of people like my young friend who are victimized by the register. I wish that a national coalition of parents, spouses, friends and concerned citizens of low risk registrants could come together as one voice to educate the law makers of this country on how a poorly thought out law is having such a negative impact on so many that sincerely regret and have served their punishment for their crimes of poor judgement.

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      Alan E Jones

      So true. I have relatives who loved me who totally avoid me because they don’t want to be seen as associating with a registered sex offender. I cant find a new place to live, so many cities and counties have made laws that basically ban me from the entire place. I am highly skilled but every job I applied did a background check and then did not want me. I don’t know where to go, where to work, how to make friends not afraid. What I did was in front of one of my children in the 1980s, yet I still have a team of police come and search my house each year leaving it a mess.

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      David

      I’ve recently been released from registration in the state of my conviction and even tho Florida has no misdemeanor sex offense laws I’m concerned they may try to keep me on the registry for life. I’ve been homless and unemployed 3 years as anyone can guess why they make no differation between an offender and a predator let alone between a misdemeanor and a felon. anybody know anyone around Florida who could help out?

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      Kevin

      I’m in Virginia and am a rso. My crime was committed in 1987. I was finally released from parole/probation in 2014. Virginia says the registry is not punitive, nor does it disadvantage the offender. This is bs!! I can’t get a job despite spending 11 years in prison where I got a college degree, various certifications, etc.
      I wish some of us can get together to sue Virginia for violating our (pre-1994) ex post facto laws. Please help, someone.

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      James Townsend

      I am on the registry and I’m not proud of myself as being on the registry has given me insight to what some go thru. It is very sad. Maybe I got off lucky with probation but I don’t feel lucky. My life is ruined also with the registry with jobs, living in fear, insecurity and stigmatization, but there is always a silver lining to every dark cloud. One of our presidents said: “there’s nothing to fear but fear itself”. I know that saying today doesn’t mean much but we all can change things. Either we can sit on our “butts” or do something about it. I am in Virginia and since I got involved in the sex registry I am using the registry as a platform as its not only effecting me but all others on the registry. We all need to stand up, Protest if we have to. Get groups in area’s’ were we live. 10 or twelve people getting a protest together. E-mail news media’s, have them run something in the paper about the discrimination’s of the sex registry, how its not working, and putting panic in people. Email congressman’s and whoever to make your voice herd. If you want to do something worth wile than stand up for your fellow brother on the sex registry. The registry is unlike any other crime and one that puts one in bondage the rest of their life. So you can either live with it the rest of your life or band together and change it. Didn’t they stand up for the Civil Rights Movement, well I think we can all stand up for the registry. I know the RSOL is doing all they can but its also up to us.

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      Mary Paul

      I agree with you James. It is time for thing to change. My son did a stupid thing when he was 14-15. Now he will be on the registry for the rest of his life. He has been a active member of society since but that does not matter they only look at what was not what is. With so many families being affected you would think more would step up instead of stay in hiding. What are they so scared of, they can’t hurt us any more than they are doing right now.

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      Lori

      Omg Susan o said the same thing my fiance us in a 12 Mont violation right now, he was convicted of attempted rape in 2nd for a 15 year old girl who lied and said she was 19 looked the part other guys,were involved at a party, her mother couldn’t control her so this was her control, in her statement she named all 3 and explained the whole thing how it went down and for how long with each but my fiance us the only one who was pubished, his lawyer didn’t even introduce his medical records and disabilities after he gets released we can’t even live together bc of my 6 year old son, yet there are worse ppl than this and we are not notified who we live next door to at all why isn’t any if this considered violation. This is a good man I have who was trapped in a messed up situation, because of this girls deceit, why isn’t she punished for impersonation or fraud certain people get off for worse things, now I’m looking for a civil rights attorney to look into his case and am contacting politicians bc it’s unfair my fiance was punished for something he basically is innocent of because thus little girl made her decision to lie so she can get away with what she wanted to and determined my fiances life for him!

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      Sidney Rex

      I have did my time. And am trying to make a name for my self . My past has me setting all by myself and I need help because people think that they can do what they .what to like have sex on job when no one is looking .

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      hg

      I agree very much with you and everyone that have to live with this unjust LAW. I was sitting at home minding my own business when I get a knock at the door from a young person that lied about her age wanting to clean. After a few times she came with ID to prove that she was of age because I wasn’t sure she was, come to find out she wasn’t. Now I am on the registry. During the time I had to appear in and out of court this person had been sleeping around with other grown men lying about her age and the same time she kept coming over to my house knowing she was already pregnant for another grown man. During the three years I was fighting for my life and freedom in court, that I did not know the age of this person she had committed other crimes by breaking into a Church along with her mother and mother’s boyfriend, not once but twice, and was selling the stolen goods as a yard sale at the home of her grandparents and was charged as an adult and now facing more charges for felony theft. Although the prosecutor and courts knew of all of this I still was forced to plea to the charge or take a chance to be proving guilty anyway and end up worst off then what I pleaded to. Myself and one other grown man life is over because of this same person who is now pregnant again for only GOD knows who. but she is consider the victim and still running around getting into trouble, and I have lost my job I work on for over 22 years. I avoided trouble all my adult life. A few problems such as a DWI when I was younger in the wrong place at the wrong time but never charged with drug or domestic problems when my girlfriend and I had during a disagreement and the police was called, but this person has been in more trouble than I ever gotten in all the years I been living. What’s wrong with this picture? I don’t know which way to turn, finding a JOB has been hard.

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      Ozz

      See, this is what pisses me off; the “law”makers and the blow-hard “therapists” of sex crimes have decided that people under a certain age cannot give consent so therefore they MUST be considered “victims” yet these damn teenagers are the ones doing the most criminal activity and getting into trouble and being charged as “adults” for certain crimes. Well excuse me but if a 15 yr old can be charged and convicted as an adult for committing certain crimes because the court system feels that teenager KNEW BETTER or knew RIGHT from WRONG, how then is that same teenager somehow a “victim” to the natural…pardon me….NATURAL act of SEX just because the other person was older?
      And WHY WHY WHY don’t the prosecutors and judges EVER hold the teenagers responsible for FALSELY REPRESENTING THEIR TRUE AGES???
      If I am 19 with a stolen or fake ID to get into a bar to drink, how is that the bar’s fault?
      This country has it’s priorities shoved straight up it’s own ass and it’s sickening. There should be a way to sue the teenager and his/her parents when there is PROOF that the teen LIED about his/her age. Then there should be a way to SUE for being convicted and the prosecutor and judge who pushed to convict the person should be disbarred. Period.

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      Michael Kuehl

      Ozz,

      Read my articles “Women as ‘Rapists’ and ‘Pedophiles’,” “‘Child Sexual Abuse” Lunacy in Wisconsin,” “Loony Wisconsin.” Google Michael Kuehl, Cassandra Sorenson-Grohall. I discuss this matter in depth and detail: the logical and empirical contradiction of prosecuting teenagers under age 18 when they commit rape and other violent felonies, and even “waiving them” into adult court in many instances, but viewing them as tantamount to prepubertal children who are too young and innocent to consent to or knowingly initiate sex when they have love affairs and dalliances with adult men and women, justifying the draconian and Orwellian punishment of adult first offenders convicted of a nonviolent and usually victimless and malum prohibitum felony.

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      Michael Kuehl

      And thus the adults are defined and punished, falsely and absurdly, as “rapists” and “pedophiles” and “child molesters.” Even the women are demonized as “rapists” -when, for obvious anatomical reasons, females can’t rape anyone in the pure and literal sense of the word and, moreover, the sex is factually (as opposed to legally) consensual and often if not usually initiated by the theoretical “victim.”

      In the Cassandra Sorenson-Grohall case, the “victim” harassed, molested, and raped the “sex offender.” She chose not to report the rape lest her tormentor “go to prison and become more of a delinquent” and then, foolishly acquiesced to subsequent act of intercourse with him for which she was arrested and prosecuted for “second-degree sexual assault of a child” and sentenced to 4-years in prison and all the other draconian and Orwellian punishments.

      So, incongruously, the biological man of 15 who raped her was old and mature enough to form the mens rea and criminal intent to commit sexual assault and possibly even to have been “waived into adult court,’ as her lawyer contended, if she had reported the crime.. But he was too young and immature to knowingly initiate subsequent acts of intercourse with the woman he harassed and molested and ultimately raped. He was an adult or quasi-adult when he raped his teacher but a “child” and “victim of sexual assault” when he aggressively initiated and enjoyed sex with her thereafter.

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