The to it all is having the registry deemed punishment. Then you can’t pass Ex Post Facto laws and we get to challenge the registry as cruel and unusual.
I do believe within the next 5-10 years the registry will fall. People are starting to see that people are being jammed up for life for one mistake.
Everyone in my church knows my charges and for a while I was banned from on site visits (they stream their services online ). I went to s church in NY where you had to have an escort and if you were a Tier 2 or 3 you were banned for life. My church trust me now so I can come and go as I please. I avoid the nursery not because I have to but just to avoid the appearance of conflict.
Society is starting to realize that branding people for life regardless of the charge (yes even sex crimes) is not in the best interest of society. How can you help people move on if they are forced to work for minimum wage jobs. In the 9 years I have been out, it has gotten a bit easier. People are starting to see I am just a human being like them. It takes time.
Sorry your marriage didn’t work out Dave. At least you tried. I couldn’t imagine doing 8 years. I did 5 1/2 months in and 18 months out (parole) and that was enough. I had a friend get 15 year sentence. He did 2 of it and was paroled. He went to his Po’s office and they tried to give him some restrictions he didn’t like. So he went to the parking lot and drove a police car into the building. He finished the rest of the 15 inside. He got off on the new charges though. Went in when he was 19 and was almost 37 by the time he was done with everything. Spent only 2 weeks of that time on the outside.