Paul Shannon at NARSOL’s conference awards banquet “Is this really the way we want to live?”

By Paul Shannon . . . To begin, I’d ask all of you to just look at this group and realize how amazing it is that such a gathering even exists — I’d ask you to consider what a great bunch of people we have as we take on the most volatile and difficult of issues that face us — and all the commitment and courage and compassion that fills this room as we battle for the soul and sanity of our country.

When we started RSOL in 2007, given the mood that existed in the country, we felt it would be too dangerous for people on the registry to actually get involved. It was the wives and mothers and intimate partners of registrants who provided the backbone for the project.

When we held our first national conference in Boston in 2009, we were so afraid that we would be attacked by mobs with pitchforks that we didn’t even divulge the location of the meeting until after people had registered.

We launched RSOL fifteen years ago with a manifesto I published in the Counterpunch online magazine. It began:

There is today in our country a growing threat to our legal system, to the rights of all of us, to the quality of life of children, and to common sense. This threat has been fanned by prosecutors, nurtured by the media, and ignored by those who usually speak out against such dangers.

In its most narrow sense, this threat can be defined as the particular approach to sexual deviance embodied in ever-more-draconian laws against all behaviors labeled “sex offenses” — including those committed by minors — and in the sex offender registries of every state and the federal government. In this approach to sex offenses, slander, hysteria, and demonization often replace reason, solid research, and proportionality.

But more broadly, the danger consists of an all-out assault on fairness, on the reputations of some of our most caring people, on necessary social relationships, and on our critical ability to confront the deepening social paranoia of 21st century America.

It went on with many specifics and then it closed:

The present crusade is spreading fear and loathing across our society. Our society does not need more fear and loathing. It needs trust and dignity and redemption. At present there is no telling how far this self-destructive approach to social problems related to sexuality can go ­ unless people capable of courage, compassion, and common sense stand up to stop it and turn our country’s attention to real solutions to our problems.

We were stunned by the widespread response from people of all walks of life across the country. 1500 people signed on (including Chrysanthi Leon, our first keynoter of this conference; Dr. Fred Berlin from Johns Hopkins; and historian Howard Zinn) leading to the formation of RSOL.

Tonight, though, I’d like to briefly call your attention to something mentioned in this manifesto. Specifically, the notion of confronting the deepening social paranoia of 21st century America and turning our country’s attention to real solutions to our problems.

For the impact of the insidious attitudes we are dealing with go far beyond our group here, go far beyond the registrant community.

Yes, we know that the registry, residency restrictions, job and housing discrimination, and civil commitment have terrible impacts on registered citizens and their families. But the reality is that there is no one out there whose life is not negatively affected by these ideas that poison our lives.

I offer you the idea that the feelings of fear and loathing directed toward those accused or convicted of a sex offense undermine the ability of every person in this country to live out their own lives, to tell their own story in this world, and to find the happiness that they and their children are capable of.

The mantra, of course, by those who presently oppose us is “protect the children.” But this is really our call, to protect the children — and not just from sexual violence but from the fear of not being free, the fear that they are surrounded by demons on every side, the fear of mythical dangers — so they can both live their lives more fully and learn how to protect themselves from actual dangers.

And the harm spreads into many corners of American life. There is no one out there whose life is not negatively affected by these ideas.

How can anyone’s life not be curtailed with the threat of false accusation or misunderstanding leading to shaming and social banishment hanging over our heads?

Lenore Skenezy , our banquet speaker several years ago, documents the tragic things we do to ourselves and our kids in daily life America in the name of protecting them.

  • A man helping a child in trouble is suspect instead of it being the most natural thing in the world;
  • Life is perilous for male coaches of female athletes;
  • Men avoid becoming teachers for elementary school kids for fear of parents’ suspicions — even though their presence in the classroom would be most helpful to many of those kids;
  • Helping a lost little girl find her dad gets you beaten to a pulp;
  • In fact, it is well known that men refuse to help children out of fear of being suspected of being “after kids.”

Is this really the way we want to live?

The fact is that this draconian legal regime and belief system around sexual offending directly impact only a small fraction of the population. Unless we are joined in our efforts to rid our country of this curse by millions of other fellow citizens, we will always face an uphill battle.

So an important part of our work is to help our neighbors to see that their lives will be enhanced if they ditch the registry and allow themselves to be freed from the fear and hatred that gave birth to it.

So we engage in specific battles about the registry, residency and travel restrictions, and the curse of lifetime civil commitment and the beliefs that undergird them. But beyond this huge task, I would ask you to see these specific battles in the context of a broader struggle, a critical struggle, to call our country to its senses, to distinguish truth from falsehood and sanity from lunacy.

To value redemption over condemnation, justice over hysteria, respect over shaming, and our common brotherhood and sisterhood over all that is tearing us apart.

The problem is that, as a country, we have substituted the pursuit of demons in our midst for the pursuit of life, liberty, and happiness.

We are a country that lives in fear. Instead of addressing our many problems — including sexual violation — in ways that make sense, we seek to destroy the monsters that we believe infect our society and whose destruction we think will make us safe.

Look at what we have done in pursuit of these demons at home and abroad. We have become like Ahab, chasing the great white whale, hoping to destroy it, to his own peril and the peril of his entire crew.

Who will free our country from such madness? Who will carry the torch of common sense, fairness, justice, and even forgiveness?

Who, if not those who themselves are victims of such demonization and madness and who stand at the epicenter of the hysteria from which this emotional plague spreads out to all the other parts of the body politic as we address more and more of our complex problems within the framework of panic and hysteria?

For this lunacy infects the minds and hearts of every one of us, making it impossible for us to address our social problems — such as sexual violation — in ways that could solve them and even begin to bring healing.

We throw billions away trying to destroy monsters of all kinds instead of supporting the lives of real people who carry heavy burdens on their shoulders as they deal with heartbreak and illness and loneliness and economic pressures and homelessness.

Is this really the way we want to live?

This is the question we need to address to our neighbors and fellow citizens, whether they live in the red world or the blue world: Is this really the way we want to live? — squandering our opportunity to make our country into a place where we all find the respect and support and connection that all of us need.

“Friends,” we need to figure out how to tell them, “can’t you see that banishing people accused or guilty of a sex offense — as well as other monsters you seek to slay — is undermining your own lives and the lives of your children?

“That you are causing our country irreparable harm at a time when we most need to come together to effectively address our problems — whether they be sexual offending, the drug epidemic, pandemics, our mental health crisis, climate catastrophe, crippling social polarization, or war and peace?”

It is time to come to our senses, to base our lives on reality, so we can make our country into what we really want it to be.

As we struggle for justice for ourselves, and for the registrant and civilly committed community, I hope we will all take up this broader challenge on behalf of all of us, so that in fighting for our own dignity, we are also fighting for the dignity, respect and justice that we all deserve.

Thank you for your attention. And thank you for your work.

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  1. Rita

    I was deeply moved by his words and wisdom. What a great follow up to an awesome weekend with fellow advocates.

  2. Jim

    I believe the sex offender registry was created to be the biggest and final grasp of removing human rights, for the illusion of safety. A rights grab that would be overwhelming accepted by the public. Now look at the human rights that they have taken in the illusion of safety since the start of the sex offender registry. There is no stopping of this for anyone. The government will need full control of the people to maintain its existence. It is afraid of the people now and will need to contain the population to insure there will be minimal resistance to their laws. The government is doing this again by fear and the illusion of safety from the “Pandemic” that they “saved ” us from and the Dangerous people lurking in every corner to hurt you. Its all about removing everyone’s rights, except for the elite. To fight this is like farting at a tornado to change its direction.

  3. Larry T

    I have been voicing these same sentiments for the last ten years. I take most every opportunity to share with people that I am around that once they get to know me that I am a registrant.
    Once I explain what it’s about, they are aghast and in most cases reply that it is ridiculous.
    I am confined to a wheelchair, due to the excellent care I received while incarcerated, and am dependent on various forms of public transportation for disabled. Today I had to go and make my presence known as I do every ninty days. The driver asked why I went to the county court house so often. I started my response by telling her, “Because I am such a terribly bad and dangerous person.” She laughed and said that I was being funny and to really tell her what this was all about. So I did. It opened the door to a discussion that once finished educated another person to the injustices of the injustice system that we are subject too in this third world nation.
    She said that because of our conversation, she would have to look at Sex Offenders in a different light and evaluate them on an individual basis as to who they are and not just what they were convicted of.
    I have also run into more and more people who have Sex Offenders in their families or know them from other relationships and find the whole thing draconian and untenable.
    We’re the crime de jure. I can vividly remember when Pot Heads were “Terrible People “and deserved to be imprisoned. The law created crime where there was none. Now it’s legal in the majority of states but the Federal Government won’t turn loose of it because it helps fill the prison beds. They also need to find ways of creating more felons to help in the disarming of the populace. What better way to control the population than through fear and propaganda campaigns and making the children the target, thus playing on the basic instincts of parents to protect them?
    Fear is the easiest way to control the ignorant masses. And that’s what these statutes do. Cause fear.
    To succeed, we need to educate the masses to the fact that they are drinking the Kool-aid and they will be the next target.
    I hope that they publish this and it encourages you to step up and be who you are and not just your crime.
    Be that good person that you truly are. Win the loyalty of friends and those you come in contact with by being the best person you can be. Make the next right choice.
    I am a monumental pessimist and I don’t like this life. I spent five years in Vietnam, from 1970 to 1975. My father and grandfather were in Europe and the Pacific fighting so we wouldn’t be having to live under the government and laws that now dictate our lives. What did we do this for if the citizens allow to happen exactly what we fought against?
    I encourage all of you to gird up your loins and take our issues to the public and educate them to the truth.

    1. w

      Sir,

      Thank you in all sincerity for serving your country.

      My dad was in the USAF. He told us about the betrayl he felt when 3-6 months in they had him up for reclassification due to his superiors neglecting their duty and basically setting him up to fail. He told us how he had to button down and get with it to show these cowards that he wasn’t going down without a fight.

      I miss my dad. I was tough on him, I regret that a lot now. He used to tell me that he’s going to miss our fights when he’s gone 🙂 But seeing now the world where this entire scheme is going on and this terrible reality that they’ve built…well I lose hope just as you do too. So I’m in. I’m fighting for you guys and my dad will see that.

      This isn’t just about being a “good” person anymore. The two-faced politicians and the crooked cops did this to us ALL. They did it to secure THEIR comfort on the backs of the oppressed. And they don’t fear your retribution since the entire scheme is built to cripple people so that they can’t stand up and get a fair chance.

      It is sick and it hurts. So I’m fighting for what’s right. It’s caused my family a lot of grief though, and it even cost my dad his life. I’ve got scores to settle and they’ve brought hell upon me in creative ways, I’ll give them that.

      But the whole point of the founding of this country was that the People were ALWAYS meant to win against the State. No matter what, they can’t beat you down. But this whole pc 290 deal became the breaching point for their sadistic manipulation and circumvention of constitutional rights. They use and abuse democracy, the rule of law, and legislative power. All they care for is their need to find a way to get you on the hook and from there they unleash tyranny. And it doesn’t stop. So if that’s the deal then you really have no other options.

      There’s no peace for me when we’re not all free.

  4. mut

    psychosis of fear and the cult of safety

  5. Teresa Pauline Salazar

    Hi! I was wondering about something: if a murderer can hire a lawyer to get him off…why can’t we all put our money into a fund that would be used to hire a really good team of lawyers to bring charges against the registry? Specifically, because it is open to public view? Being that the public can look up so’s in their neighborhood, which endangers the lives of so’ and their families! Is it impossible to bring a lawsuit against the registry and change it?? It robs thousands of U.S. citizens of their freedom, places them in danger and tears down their ability to live in peace!! Just wondering. I would gladly donate to a fund for a legal team to bring a lawsuit for change!!
    Teresa