Virginia grandmother prohibited from seeing grandchildren in school events

By Sandy . . . Seventeen years ago in Grayson County, Virginia, a fourteen-year-old boy named David and a 26-year-old woman named Shelly set in motion events that would reverberate for months, years, and decades to come.

The background story:

David was a troubled youth. By fourteen he was intimately familiar with the juvenile justice system in Virginia. His legal custody had bounced from mother to grandmother to maternal aunt with stints of foster care in between. At fourteen he was legally in the custody of and living with his mother’s sister Sherri. When she became highly suspicious that he was entangled in a sexual relationship with 26-year old Shelly, she went to David’s mother Tammie.

Tammie confronted David and Shelly, letting them know that if they were involved and it did not cease immediately, she would go to the authorities. Two months later she received verification from her sister that he was still going to Shelly’s house, and Tammie made good on her promise.

David was taken from the custody of Sherri and put once again into the foster care system; Shelly was charged with carnal knowledge of a minor and is on the Virginia sexual offense registry. Sherri was charged with a misdemeanor in connection with the affair.

Two months later, David’s mother Tammie was arrested and charged under a sub-section of the Virginia penal code 18.2-307.1 with failure to report a crime in a timely manner. She took a plea and was incarcerated for a total of 18 months.

One month before she was due for release, she was informed that the crime she was charged with was a subset of a sexual crime law involving facilitating indecent liberties with a child by a person in a custodial position and that she would be classified as a sexually violent predator and be on the Virginia sex offender registry for life. Looking back on that time in her life, Tammy says, “I was devastated. I had never been told that I was charged with a sex crime or that I would be on the sex offender registry. That was never once mentioned, not in court, not by anyone. I could not believe that this was happening.”

When told to sign papers verifying her knowledge of what would happen, she refused to sign. She was told that she could either sign or remain in prison. She signed. She was released one month later as a registered sexual offender with an SVP designation and a lifetime obligation to register in the county of Grayson, state of Virginia.

And now….

Fifteen years later, Tammie, as a grandmother, is the legal guardian of four grandchildren. The penal code of Virginia, 18.2-370.5, prohibits any registered sexual offender with the SVP designation – which, apparently, is the vast majority of all registrants in that state – from being on daycare or school property or at events sponsored by the school that are held on school property. The code also sets forth the procedure for requesting that an exception be made.

Two of the four children are David’s. He and his mother Tammie now have an excellent relationship, and he is involved in the lives of his children even though his mother is their official guardian.

Tammie’s four grandchildren are all in daycare or public school, and three of the four are active in sports and band. She has been told verbally that she can pick them up at school or after practice as long as she does not get out of the car, but the district will not put that in writing. She is currently going through the established procedure for being granted exception status so that she can attend their extra-curricular events and be fully involved in the school lives of these children, ages three, four, eight, and twelve. This is her third such attempt, having been denied by the court in her previous two.

The procedure is lengthy and complex. It requires that notices be placed in local newspapers once a week for the two-week period preceding the scheduled court hearing; this is done at the expense of the person making the petition, in this case Tammie. The petitioner may solicit letters of support and character reference to be presented to the court.

Even if the court should grant the request, the school district is not compelled to honor it. They may set their own limitations or stipulations or even deny it outright.

Tammie’s court date is October 4. Letters sent must be postmarked no later than September 25 and sent directly to the court. They must state clearly that they are being sent in either support of or in opposition to the request of Tammie Leigh Davis Lawson’s petition to be granted permission to be on daycare and school property in Grayson County, Virginia.

Letters from persons who do not know Tammie should focus on the vital importance of parents and those who stand in place of parents being involved in the school lives of their charges and on the facts that Tammie has served her punishment, completing all required of her, has maintained a totally clean record, and that as guardian and role model for these children and for their good as well as that of society in general needs to be as fully involved as possible in all aspects of their lives.

Letters may be sent to the Hon. Susan M. Herrington Clerk, Grayson County Circuit Court, PO Box 130, Independence, VA 24348, and should reference Tammie’s full name as given above.

Tammie admits to mistakes that she made in the past. Like all of us, if she had a second chance to live some years over, they would be lived differently. But we do not get the chance in this life for do-overs. We should, however, get the chance going forward to make better decisions and choices and be the best that we can be.


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Sandy Rozek

Sandy is communications director for NARSOL, editor-in-chief of the Digest, and a writer for the Digest and the NARSOL website. Additionally, she participates in updating and managing the website and assisting with a variety of organizational tasks.

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    • #59374 Reply

      There is great need for humans to become cognizant of the databases’ ability to destroy an American family. It is not the inert machine itself rather now the machines are promulgated and proliferated in use that does the unfathomable. How a delinquency in crime reporting constitutes violent sexual predation is beyond my comprehension. Perhaps the surrounding facts are more abhorrent then appear. The judge in the plea would have more knowledge of those untold facts than me, but we still plainly state her crime likely not motivated by sexual interest. The static ( passive) person can not be said to convey aggression in default, that is dumb.

      This case shows why the SORs we infact about big money in unfettered uses of the machines rather than sexual deviance.

    • #59394 Reply

      Constitutional rights are a burden on the government. The unconstitutional sex offender program takes care of this problem. As long as it is supported by the people they will get away with it. The more innocent people are ensnared in this program the more family, and friends of these people will see the truth and support will fall away. The pendulum will swing back.

    • #59412 Reply

      This is so absurd. 18 months for failing to report a crime? I know people who actually committed a crime who served much less or no time at all. And that was her PLEA deal?

      Does Virginia put everyone who fails to report a crime on their sex offender registry? How is that even a sexual offense? And it certainly isn’t a violent crime of any type.

      There is zero logic behind any of this. It just goes to show that states look for any reason they can get away with to put another person on the registry because there is a financial gain when they can inflate the numbers.

    • #59425 Reply

      It’s not just 18 months for not reporting a crime; it’s a life time of the sex offender registry and a classification as a sexually violent predator. Even with the hysteria that’s currently going on, this makes absolutely no sense. What basis does anyone have to say that a non reporting bystander was violent in any way? This is clearly and totally guilt by association.
      This woman clearly wanted to do the right thing and not cause further detriment to her son’s trust in mankind. It’s clear that the government of Virginia couldn’t give a crap about the child involved in this case.
      Did anyone ever think we’d be witness to “Big Brother” only less than a century after it was written?

      • #59445 Reply

        I have observed this country moving closer and close to a Big Brother state for at least 3 decades. This is real it is not for money it is for control the same things they claim is at the core of sex crimes.

        • #59535 Reply
          The Criminalized Man

          I see it too d. All they need to do is keep eroding free expression.
          “What is freedom of expression? Without the freedom to offend, it ceases to exist.”

    • #59428 Reply

      So by this logic, shouldn’t Virginia be prosecuting and registering every victim of sexual assault who didn’t report for how ever many months or years after they were assaulted, post #MeToo or otherwise?

      • #59546 Reply

        You make a great point if the code does not state that the victim is immune from prosecution for failure to report then by law they would be guilty as well and subject to the same punishment.

    • #59436 Reply

      I’m inclined to believe that a read of the statute will prove you right. It’s doubtful they put exceptions on that piece of legislation. Your logic is undeniable, which reveals the system for the broken mess that it is: one that produces teenage selfie child pornographers in one jurisdiction and SVP grandmothers in another, all the while giving everyone rocks to hold as they toss them out of the boat, encouraging them to “have a nice swim!”

      Thankfully the system doesn’t determine our future or our fate, for there is a God in heaven whose scales of justice will prevail in the end. Man may look on the externals, but God judges the heart. If you live with a clean conscience before God, that’s all that matters. The system’s hold on us is but for a little while…. (Heb. 10:32-36)

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      Robin Vander Wall
      Robin Vander Wall

      Great piece, Sandi! Good luck, Tammie. The situation is just about as absurd as anything can possibly get. Boggles the mind!

    • #59951 Reply

      Actually I wasn’t gonna give my input but Robins view gave me food for thought. “It boggles the mind”, I feel Robin has a good point. I even sometimes want to know what criminal justice is in this justice for all. Is a lot of this ordeal or is it about man overcoming man. Talk about absurd.

      Are many of these ordeals ludricious or lubricious. These ministers of justice tend to weld the sword in a vain or vaniety like manner. Do ministers of justice induce to obtain the result they are seeking. Do ministers of justice cover up ordeal to strive to rectify of justify their actions. Do they impersonate others to overcome others. One has to understand who are they really protecting and who are they really serving or is this some ego trip that is carnal at best. In many cases its abuse with a capital A.

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