Abolish the public sex offender registry

By Lenore Skenazy . . . Sometimes when I post about the Sex Offender Registry, I get comments like, “Those scum don’t deserve to EVER live a normal life!”

This note below is to remind us that a study of 17,000 people on the registry by the The Georgia Sex Offender Registration Review Board found that about 5% were “clearly dangerous,” and 100 could be classified as sexual predators.

Not that the other thousands and thousands of registrants were all Romeo and Juliet cases, or teens who sexted. Just that most people who have been arrested for a sex crime don’t do it again. Some will. Most won’t. And the public registry has no effect either way.

So here is Shawna’s tale. She is on the Registry for life. Does this make any of us feel safer?

Dear Free-Range Kids: My name is Shawna and I am a required to register as a sex offender for having sex with a teen when I was a teen myself. Here is my story.

When I was 12 my mom befriended a neighbor in the apartment complex we lived in at the time. She was around 21-22 at the time and I thought she was absolutely the coolest person I had ever met. I idolized her. She was more interested in being my friend than my mom’s friend, and was there for me through some very bad times while we were neighbors. We moved and lost contact. Then when I was 18 we reconnected.

She was around 31 at this time and hung out with her friend’s 14 year old son. I had moved in with her and the 3 of us became close friends. She would always tell me how much he liked me and that him and I could have mixed-colored babies and they would be so pretty.Which got my mind thinking about him in a way that was more than friends.

On my 19th birthday she said she wanted to have a party and the 3 of us got drunk and played truth or dare. She had us dance naked and kiss in front of her. Him and I had sex that night.

The next morning she took him to his mom and she filed charges against me. I was sentenced to 6 months jail, lifetime probation and lifetime registry as a sex offender. I will be turning 34 in December and I’m still required to register and be on probation. I have to take polygraphs every 6 months and still attend sex offender group therapy. I have 3 children and this is starting to affect them.

Two years ago they passed a law that says I cannot take my kids to the park anymore. This includes lakes, as they are State parks. Their friends can never stay over for a sleepover and where I can have their birthday parties are limited. My husband and I along with our 3 kids have had to move in with my mom on many different occasions, due to my restriction on where I can live and not being able to find a home.

I have all the backing from my probation officer and therapist to try and get off probation and registry. However due to my felony it is hard to find any job where I would make the amount of money I need to go back to court.

The system is failed and everyone is being painted with a broad brush. I want to become a voice for sex offenders and hopefully get connected with the right people and/organization to start changing some of these laws. Not everyone should be called a sex offender.

Sincerely, Shawna

Turns out I’d seen Shawna in the deeply affecting documentary “Untouchable,” by David Feige. It chronicles the efforts of a powerful Florida lobbyist, Ron Book, who was so outraged (and, it feels to me, guilt-ridden) to learn that his now-grown daughter was molested by their nanny that he has dedicated his life to making the sex offender laws harsher and harsher. Book is delighted that no one on the registry can resume a normal life. At the end of the movie we see him raging that the children of those on the registry should be taken away.

If Book’s urges became national law, Shawna’s three kids would not grow up with her.

Shawna’s story may be unusual. Then again, every registrant’s story, just like every non-registrant’s story, is unique. But our laws aren’t. They are heavy, blunt instruments forged in fury rather than reason. Shawna’s right: It is time to change our sex offender laws. And it is time to get rid of the public sex offender registry. – L

(Courtesy of Lenore Skenazy’s blog, Free-Range Kids)

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    • #8579 Reply

      This has got me so enraged, I can’t even think straight.

      PROBATION FOR LIFE????!!!!! Who gets that in a case like this??? Or ANY case for that matter? That’s INSANITY!!! Probation for life but only 6 months in jail. Six months….that kinda speak very loudly about how much of a threat this woman apparently is in the eyes of the court that sentenced her.

      If we are such HORRIBLE people, how are so many of us doing such little prison time?
      I guess the only thing that’s more heinous than a sex offense that can get you lots of years in prison in this country is messing with the government’s precious money.
      Don’t fudge your income taxes to try to get more money back. HOLY HELL, you’ll get the chair for that!!

      • #37276 Reply

        As a retired Police Officer in Colorado I can tell you in this day and age of Amber Alerts and DNA the registry is not used. It solely exists for punishment and a tool for wanna be vigilantes and snooty, bored housewives to harass people. When the registry first started there were only 8 federal offenses that would add someone to it. Now it numbers over 40. Add in state laws it is well over a hundred in many states. As an example of how stupid it is I will give three examples of people that I had to visit while on patrol in order to update their SOR. No names will be listed for obvious reasons.
        Subject #1 – 10 yr male (Yes I said 10) was at a sleep over at a 9 yr old male friends house. Mother of 9 yr old male walked into the bathroom and both boys were naked laughing and poking at each other’s privates. Instead of being a parent and telling them to knock it off, she calls the police. 10 yr old child charged and forced to register on the sex offender registry.

        Subject#2 – 18 yr old female high school cheerleader. After a homecoming game that her school won she boarded the bus with the rest of the students to return to their school as they were on the visitor team. 18 yr old sees opposing side’s cheerleaders outside the bus. She lowers the window, pulls down her underwear and “moons” them. Charged and registered as a sex offender.

        Subject#3 – 23 yr old male at a college party. He is intoxicated. As a joke he “short drops” a male friend of his exposing his buttocks. 23 yr old is charged and registered as a sex offender.

        I could go on and on. As a final note ponder this….The US also has another registry…The “terrorist watchlist” yet this list isn’t made public. Why? Because the government has opined that if these individual’s photos and addresses were released, vigilantes would target them. Yet they don’t feel the same about SORs? The government says it is not punishment and they don’t encourage vigilantes….yea right, this a tongue and cheek example of what you find on the Colorado registry:
        “This person is dangerous and may target your children” (imagine the “dangerous” people I listed earlier)
        “Here are his identifiers (Ht, Wt, tattoos, ect)
        “This is his employers address and phone number”
        “This is a description of his vehicles and license plate numbers”
        “This is his recent photo” which is taken every year, or 4 times a year depending on the offense
        “This is his address”
        “And just for your convenience we have linked our site to google maps so you can get turn by turn directions to his residence”
        “We don’t condone harassing or victimizing this individual but take all steps necessary to defend your wife and children from this out of control dangerous monster.”

      • #39560 Reply
        Joe Snyder

        This is not meant to be a joke, but just wait till they try to put Donald Trump on it!
        Guaranteed to change the laws then!

      • #42178 Reply

        I am for getting rid of the sex offender registries, for one main reason… only violent offenders should be listed. The actual act against a unwilling child and some family rape should be listed if the registered list is inforce. Current list does dose not clearly show the offense. When you look at the names, it does not state their actual act. How they acted to offend. Did they force someone or was everyone just drunk. I say that because I had sex with a man while very drunk and have no real memory of the actual act. Should he be punished for life. No! Because he was also very drunk. I think actual acts of violence should be on that list and actual crimes against children. To make another point I had sex with a boy while I was 13 and he 19. Should he be punished when I knew what I was going to do? No is the answer.
        The list just groups everyone together. So if you see their name, one automatically assumes violent rape or a very young child.

    • #8580 Reply

      The system is really messed up. The court likes to throw all they can to people with sex crime charges.

      I took plea deal for low level felony and I’d already been incarcerated for nearly two years (waiting for the trial) which according to my lawyer was time served. But then I found out afterward that I was put in five more years of Probation.

      The probation people like to give unnecessary trouble just to prove that they are overlords. Perhaps in the case of the individual in this article being a female, the system is somewhat lenient (maybe), otherwise, talking from my personal experience, the Probation is there to prove that the recidivism rate for people labeled as sex offender is very very high; became they (can) violate probationees for nonsense stuff, like failing to pay probation fee when unemployed (I kid you not, I was warned on multiple occasions), etc.

    • #8581 Reply

      Move to another state .. Get out of florida. If this is where you live . when you live in another state you can ask that state to release you from the registration . or have at least an out date. To be removed from the registration .

    • #8582 Reply
      Dave D

      They do not think most of us are a threat. They are allowed to treat us like we are which allows them to remove some of our rights and this is what it is all about. Our government is after total power always this is priority #1. Until we elect officials that believe in the constitution and what it stands for this will remain the same.

    • #8583 Reply

      “Probation Fee” and Annual Regristration Fee. There is the real reason behind lifetime probation and registration, and the real reason why registries are ballooning so rapidly.
      Anyone with common sence knows it is not about keeping people safe.

      • #45913 Reply
        Matthew Arnold

        It doesn’t keep anyone registrant or not safe and this is why Their’s so much fear about those that committed these crimes, but the reality is that the s.o. is sometimes the victim of vigilantes

    • #8584 Reply
      James Townsend

      You know I like to put a bit of humor in everything it makes for a brighter day.. Can you all Desperado. You know I like to insert a bit of humor in all things. I’m sure those who wrote that song had troubles.
      I wouldn’t even be on here if I hadn’t gotten caught up with all this sex hoopla. Anybody that actually hurts a little girl should be in pay some type of punishment but anybody that is duped well that’s another thing. Sex, Money and rock and Roll well that’s of the 70’s.
      Do I believe all this sex offender stuff be abolished? To an extent as we are all sex offenders weather you know it or not. Money is the root of all evil.
      Now I know some of you on here want to solve all this by man’s wisdom but you will never do it.
      Even Brenda Jones didn’t know what to tell me or any advice to tell me when and if, as my probationer said, I had to I go back to court over.
      Sure mankind is easy to give advice but that could be the wrong advice. Right is right and wrong is wrong. Man has always wanted to be right but when they are wrong they don’t really know how to swallow their pride. What more can I say with this sex offender ordeal….. we all live and learn…. wouldn’t it be funny if all the world learned the golden rule and practiced it, maybe this world wouldn’t be in this shape.

    • #8585 Reply

      Shawna, we all feel your pain. It’s inhumane having the modern day Scarlet letter of the SOR. Like you said, we’re all painted with a broad brush, all lumped into the disposable category. We are all suffering, you’re not alone.

    • #8586 Reply

      This system is just screwed. ..and the “treatment” is WRONG…if teachers do not read what they think.should be written. a kid that made a horrific mistake at the age of 20 is forced to play the game…or be tramatized in group sessions and be made to feel like they should not even live life
      ..complete stupidty. Angry Angry Parent in Texas

    • #8587 Reply

      That whole nonsense with having to pay probation fees (not here in CT at least) and the fee to attend the SO treatment group which probation forces us to do, should be taken to court with a class action lawsuit with the argument being basically: We’re not on probation for our economic status so stop lying to the public about us being dangerous when we get re-arrested for not being able to pay a fee.

      • #45737 Reply

        18 or older isnt a teen anymore. You all think its ok for a 18 to 20 yr old or older to sleep with a 13,14,15 yr old is ok? sorry but it isnt. The only way I find it is ok is if the relationship.started before the person became an adult and there is no more than 2 yrs difference. At that age 3 yrs difference is huge.

        • #45744 Reply

          Who is advocating for that to be okay? Do you think an 18 year old who had consensual sex with a 15 year old should be punished by a lifetime of registering? Do you think he or she is a danger to society?

    • #8588 Reply

      Like everybody else has said your not alone Shawna. When I registered in 2003 it was for only 10 years and now I am starting my 14th year on the registry. I hope somehow this whole thing will end and I hope things get better for you.

      • #48108 Reply

        Hello beautiful people I have read some of the stories very sad. I’m not on the list, but my true love is his case really was screwd and accused by his niece spent 10yrs in prison the rest probation, well I moved to NC and he got me and kids a house made hisself homeless I got sick didnt know my children called him, and its sad when a family member turn you in anyway je got arrested I was able to get him out a few days later he had to take me to hospital amd we have been going back and fourth to court, now he’s looking at time and Im disabled and have no family. I do have 2 more children at home.I really think its bad when accused and didn’t do, to be a older man with a younger girl amd she sneaking with him is wrong for him or any person on this list or to be on the list, I didnt know it would be this hard being in love with someone on this dumb list, but I’m in for the long run and I know he’s telling me the truth.At lot of things you can’t do is crazy like you cant go to church😱all people not bad and most have been lied on!! I wish I could have his case reopend. God Bless You All

    • #8589 Reply
      John W

      Hey Rajendra. I know what you’re saying. I was released from probation in 1991. To make a long story short, I was required to register in 2006 due to a Missouri Supreme Court decision. The CLEO actually assigns a date for me to report. On one occurrence, I had to work to 5pm and by the time I got to the police station, the door was locked. So I called them on the phone and I was told that the door is always locked at 4pm, even though there wasn’t a notice on the door stating any days or times.

      When I went back the next day, I was informed that all my paperwork was already sent to the prosecutors office for failure to register, therefore, I’m not allowed to register. To make another long story short, after being intimidated, humiliated, belittled, and threatened to have my a__ beaten, they finally allowed me to re-register like it was the first time. The paperwork, picture, fingerprint, DNA, all over again.

      Two weeks later, I got a letter from the PA that informed me that I had committed a felony which requires a prison sentence, but at this time, I will not be prosecuted. Therefore, he is placing me on an indefinite probation with a zero tolerance policy.

      That happened 10 yrs ago, and I have been treated since, in a acceptable manner by the people working there. But, whenever I’m within 2 wks of my 90 day re-registration, I become anxious and depressed to the point of not eating or sleeping and by the time the registration day is here, my whole body is shaking. In order to live this way, I’ve put it in the back of my mind under the “Life Sucks!” file. It usually stays there 10 out of 12 weeks.

      On a related subject, I watched the confirmation hearings today on CSPAN concerning our new attorney general. It doesn’t matter what the political affiliation is, I am afraid of the future.

    • #8590 Reply

      When you say, “When I registered in 2003 …….” it makes it sound like the sex offender registry is voluntary.

      • #34225 Reply
        James Thomas

        They coerce you into doing so, by threatening to arrest you if you don’t. They are also violating the double jeopardy clause, by punishing you for a crime that you already did time for. Somebody needs to start a class action lawsuit for their fraudulent behavior. Until something is done about this, they will continue to get away with it. Not everybody has the money to hire an attorney.

        • #39559 Reply
          Joe Snyder

          I’m on the MA SORB and they say it’s not double jeopardy because it’s the “not registering” that’s the new crime. Cops made me apologise for getting mad when they made me say loudly why i was there last time or they wouldn’t let me register if I didn’t say sorry.

    • #8591 Reply

      Rajendra I’m sorry if you misunderstood me,it was anything but voluntary.

    • #8592 Reply

      Probation and registration for life and I thought I had it bad. Don’t get me wrong, being convicted of any crime where you have to register means you lose. As we all know the real anguish, fear, despair, loneliness, pain, and suffering (punishment) comes after your sentence when you register. All these things are only incidental the government says……they are for public safety and merely reglatory…..yea right.

    • #8593 Reply


      Im sorry but your belief is not true. Most states (if not all now) have laws that require you to maintain the lifetime registration in that state you are moving to. Simply moving to another state does not relieve anyone of any requirement to register. Lifetime registration is lifetime registration no matter where you move and while you can petition to be removed depending on the state and the nature of your offense, you have about the same chance of getting off lifetime registration as you do of winning the power ball lottery.

    • #8594 Reply

      Dear Shawna,

      My name is James. In 2005 I was 22 and she 16 and very beautiful ….we was dating and having sex with her willing… Parents didn’t like it so they turn me in and they was very controlling… The investigator came and question me about us and told them everything by this time we wasn’t dating and she was 17 … They charged with sexual abuse 12–17 age and then when I pled out they change it to aggervated sexual abuse which makes me have to regster for life they gave 3 years with 2 years parole on ankle monitor…. I did my time and haven’t got into trouble since …. Besides getting arrested for being at a park as a s.o with my two boys now I’m on 5 year p.o…. With that all said this regerstration for life is unconstitutional….. How can tell me I can go some where here and there… And I want to show my boys how to hunt and fish ….show them the rules of guns…. A lot of it has to do with our over payed government….. If they had choice they would take on marshal law so that said the want control over every one ####### we all need stand up file a Class ACTION LAW suit against federal government…… George bush pushed this lifetime regerstration UNITED WE STAND

    • #8595 Reply
      Andrew D Olsen

      I was forced to register in 2009 after my case was dismissed following a deferred imposition of sentence. No registration was required or ordered in my case. The registration was forced on me as a condition of bond in 2009 when I received a letter stating that I “may” have to register and to submit any documentation that I have that says I don’t. Well, I did and I was pretty much ignored, arrested, forced to register, then that case was dismissed…..Still on the registry! Now my life is a shambles. I have a chance to get off, but God knows if that will happen. If they hadn’t forced registry on me I would have gone home. The registry has kept me half a nation away from my family and loved ones. If I go home now I would be on the registry for life. Restrictions are far worse back home. I have fought and fought, but all that happens is basically “too bad”. What has happened to me makes a mockery of “justice”. To me there is no justice, only harassment and persecution

    • #8596 Reply

      Well I can say there are ways around sex offender harassment. You will always have to register. However you need to consider working for yourself if at all possible. You are gonna need to walk the straight and narrow for sure. You can start your business with a student loan if you have not burned that bridge already. I know this because I have a sex crime from when I was 18. I did 10yrs in prison and once I got out I went on a mission to save money. I literally had 50$ in my pocket when I got out and a job at waffle house. Less than 7 years later I am now proud to announce I own 3 rental properties as well as the house I live in. I achieved this through my roofing business which does not require a license in my state. See US Constitution says everyone has a right to make a living. Next year I will graduate from University of Houston with a 4 year administration degree and will have accumulated a significant debt. Here’s the screw you government of the story. Since I can’t get a real job and pay into social security there is really no way for the government to garnish my wages to recoup the student debt if I fail in life due to the harrasment. In 20 yrs I will own my rentals and can retire off of the money they generate every month. Very risky but what do we have to lose. You see if there is a will there’s a way. Banks don’t do background checks when they issue credit so if you just focus on yourself and keep your bills paid you can achieve anything. I can’t wait until a cop applies to rent one of my homes and they see how it feels to be denied just because I don’t like them. What goes around comes around in this world.

    • #8597 Reply

      Hurray for you. I am so glad to hear you have been doing well. My husband too has been working for himself and he was notified that he has to register as a tier 3 offender. We r quite devestated but our faith is a big role in our life so again, I wouldn’t say this is a walk in the park but more like a walk thru a major forest – knowing that there is some clarity beyond that. Praise God for his own business and now we are going to have to ramp it up. Would love to connect with u locally if you are in the DFW area!

    • #8598 Reply

      I enjoyed reading your story and I agree, working for ourselves is the way to go and that is what I do now. I am happy to hear you are successful as landlord, but curious as to how you made that work. I owned 2 houses for rent and in 6 years I could not find a single reliable tenant who would faithfully pay their rent and take care of the house. One of them just disappeared and I never heard from him again. He owed me 3 months of rent. Another was always trying to get out of paying his rent by trying to get the city to condemn the house (which they wouldn’t do because there was nothing wrong with it) I finally had him forcefully evicted after he didn’t pay rent for 5 months and when I went in to clean up the interior was destroyed. That is when I decided it is time to get out of the rental business. All of these people had good references who said they are reliable and would be good tenants. This all went down during the housing crisis and I was not able to sell the houses, they were eventually foreclosed and it will be several more years before I am able to qualify for any kind of loan because of that. I strongly discourage anybody from getting into the the rental business when they ask me.

    • #8599 Reply

      John Walsh was in just about the same situation as you. Except he went on to force the AWA thru, destroy 1000’s of lives, and become a rich and famous celebrity to boot. Damn.

    • #8600 Reply
      Michael Kuehl

      Shawna, your story is sickening, depressing, infuriating, appalling, outrageous, as are the stories of myriads of other people. At worst, you should have been charged with a misdemeanor, however defined, and sentenced to 3-6 months of probation and 50-100 hours of community service: no incarceration in prison or jail; no mandatory sex-offender treatment; no probationary quasi-totalitarian supervision; not even for a month or week much less a lifetime; no registration as a uniquely deviant and dangerous criminal, not for a week much less until you die at age 77 or 84 or 92.

      I suggest you google “free Abigail Simon, Michael Kuehl, and read the articles and blog-posts on my website and you’ll understand, better than ever before, why you were crucified by this new-age witch-hunt and secular jihad against “child sexual abuse.”

    • #8601 Reply

      Im goin though bull to lets all get togethef and do something about it !!!!

    • #8602 Reply
      A miserable wife

      My husband has to register for life also. But when he was paroled his green sheet said he had to register for the length of his parole. Now he his tier 3 when he was the child and he was 17 she got him drunk as a kid she was 25 she slept with him yelled raped because he told her he was going to let his cousin know what they did ( she was dating the cousin at the time). She tried to retract it but they said she would be charged so she was scared and kept the charges. When he was 16 he went with his same cousin who was grown at the time and did a robbery. He did do that so they scared him into a plea with no lawyer and his mom was on drugs so he had no one. He wanted to do his time for the robbery but not the rape so they lowered the charges and told him if he didn’t take the plea they were going for the max sentence. So he took the plea as an adult. Wrong thing to do but he was young and scared. Now he is 40 been off parole since he was 27 and has not done anything since he was 17. 5 years in prison 5 years parole and 13 years with nothing not even a parking ticket. I have talked to her and she says how sorry she is but that doesn’t help our 4 children when they go to school or their friends see their dad on Megan’s law. It’s such a shame because they tell him he’s tier 3 because he did the robbery which has nothing to do with the charge of sexual misconduct. We need to take a stand!!! A miserable wife!!!

    • #8603 Reply
      H n H

      We have a new administration in office. I wonder if a petition of redress for all these sex “crimes” isn’t in order? At what age does a girl become culpable for her actions? Well, if she’s 14 or 15 and kills someone, the courts will have a field day in an attempt to adjudicate her as an adult. If she willingly, and forcefully makes unwanted advances towards an older man and forces him to touch her, then instantly she’s a “victim”. Victim… don’t make me go there, it’s a rant I won’t stop with. The courts have USED the “sex” hysteria to abuse their powers to inflate their own agenda to make any event where a sex body part is involve into a crime. It is NOT… I repeat NOT EVER (EVER!!!!!) about protecting a promiscuous girl, or stopping her from destroying mens lives. She receives no punishment, except maybe from her parents, and that’s little to none as the detectives direct the girl that she doesn’t have to discuss anything about the case with them. This isn’t’ anything about what she is responsible for, the game is for the courts to play to destroy a life for their gain.

      Sadly, this country is headed with its sex offenses where it was with segregation back in the 60’s. The courts, DA’s, even parents LOVE this crap. It justifies their anger for what their daughter did and what they obviously can’t control. They can pin it all on one man and destroy his life, all while crying “This is what you get, you harmed a child!!” If the Supreme court doesn’t put their foot down to all these emotionally founded sex “crimes”, let alone the registry, then there will soon come a day when nearly half the citizens are on the registry. It’s just a matter of time. I don’t see the registry numbers going down any.

      Just a last thought, what’s wrong with a federal mandatory age of culpability for involvement in these events that lead to an arrest?

    • #8604 Reply
      NH Registrant

      I made a huge mistake recently. I befriended a guy my own age online recently and thought he was a decent guy. Sure, he had his problems, but he seemed on the level. So, I shared with him the details of my false conviction and the evidence that was planted on me. Now I feel like an idiot.

      We had a parting of the ways. Other people who were his friends – and didn’t know about my conviction – had problems with me personally out of jealousy due to how close I was becoming with THEIR friend. So, they badmouthed me and soon I was no longer this guy’s friend. He used the logic of being friends with THEM longer than with me. So, recently, this guy had an issue with me and was spying on me in a public chat room. He went on a tear and blurted out about every detail of what happened to me! I couldn’t believe it! I really should have known better than to trust ANYONE online that I don’t know with details about me: my real name was included, but thankfully not in his rant. He even has my picture! So, if this guy wanted to, he could ruin my life.

      This is where the registry comes in. The crime I got convicted of was a simple possession of materials crime. No manufacturing. No dissemination. Nothing. But, me being on the Registry for life will always make me someone who has to constantly hide from society. It’s never been more clear to me about that than now. If this guy felt like it, he could expose my REAL NAME to anyone he wanted. So, thanks to the Registry, those people could track me down and do who-knows-what to me or my family! Is this justice? Is it right that I have to hide for the rest of my life from society because of some images that I never downloaded? Even if I HAD downloaded the images, is it still right? I don’t think so. The Registry doesn’t include politicians, wealthy people, police & other public servants, and people in the entertainment industry who have committed FAR worse crimes – some with ABSOLUTELY no remorse! Even the family members of public figures and authorities get excused from the Registry if they have committed sex crimes.

      It’s really stunning how low our society has sunk and how much it HASN’T evolved from those fateful times in Salem, Massachusetts back in the 1600’s.

    • #8605 Reply
      H n H

      It makes one wonder if the powers to be haven’t raised children to such a high social status that everyone else is just dirt, and no matter what, doing everything short of killing them is what they deserve….

      ALL of these laws are based on emotion, the registry included (that’s a fact by the lack of addressing all empirical evidence for the uselessness of the registries existence they refuse to accept). The courts HAVE to see how much damage this is causing people. They refuse to accept the truth of the registry (that’s it’s a punishment) and look the other way to continue the fiasco. That is corruption at the lowest level.

      The courts don’t care how much trauma a girl goes through if the defendant has the strength to take the case to trial. Also, the courts sure don’t care about the damage done to the defendants life they set out to destroy. When the court is done shaming the girl on the stand by forcing her to admit to a sexual dalliance she was responsible for, they then turn and look at the defendant and say all this trauma they just forced this girl to endure is his fault! What on earth is wrong with the system? Are they that blind? Or is hatred just so easy of an emotion for rational people to fall into that they can’t help themselves, thus making the charges and subsequent punishments GROSSLY over exaggerated?

      That said, who’s to blame for this society blessed hatred? It’s as though the entire court room, and judicial branch is just a huge lure for parents to express their unbridled hatred towards a simple mistake someone made in their life. The parents obviously can’t control their daughter, so they drag some helpless, clueless soul into court for their own teenagers promiscuity. Beings they can’t raise their children properly, the courts have to do so. Only it isn’t the teenager who takes the fall. If people had the one simple fact of the human race in their mind (that basically most all people are good), then there should be an avenue for such a person to rebuild their lives after the courts have their way by destroying it.

    • #8606 Reply
      Matthew Arnold

      I feel for you because I’m on the sex offender registry for life in Utah for a crime I committed 9 years ago, So I know all about s!@# that goes bing on there, I am no longer on supervision by the state and no longer required to go to sex offender group therapy but it still is prevalent in my life and have relentless life long requirement to register every 6 months, I spent a year in the salt Lake County jail and 3 years of zero tolerance probation and after my sentence was over in 2012 I still get kicked in the head by society and when I first moved into my apartment in Tooele Utah my next door neighbor went and blabbed to the entire apartment complex and told everyone that I was a registered sex offender! I totally resented her for that and they knew my name before a could introduce myself! I have a hard time getting dates with someone because of status and had very little luck finding a job because of me being on the the registry, as result of my neighbors big mouth I’m targeted for all kinds harassment be everyone! So I feel your pain lucky I did find a job and they know about what happened and they still let me work for them! So my suggestion is count your blessings, name them one by one and see what the Lord has done (I’m not Mormon by the way I am a born again Christian) what I’m trying to say is thank the Lord for what he did provide for you in your life!

    • #8607 Reply
      NH Registrant

      Thanks for the reply. I still am living in fear because I don’t know what will go on in my direction. I pray the guy doesn’t release my real name to people. That would put my family in jeopardy as well as me! There are still people with pitchforks out there these days. But, now, the pitchforks are computer keyboards and cell phones.

      It’s become easier to smear someone and ruin their lives. The registry helps this. I honestly think the registry will NEVER be done away with because it is a steady source of revenue for the states in so many ways: the men and women who have to PAY for the privilege of being on the registry, and the paranoid public that ostracizes them and does everything they can to boot them out of their living areas – even to the point of false accusations. Being on the registry, you are automatically assumed guilty more than you were when you were accused in the first place.

      It’s sad. But, this is what our society has sunk to: a bunch of over-paranoid people with entirely too much influential power in their pockets and on their desks.

    • #8608 Reply
      John D

      Same here, 10 years of registration started 14 years ago. I was a teenager and so was my “victim”. She lied about herror age and I’ve taken all of the responsibility. All of the polygraph tests, discrimination, and ridicule that go along with being a SO.

    • #8609 Reply
      Privacy Matters

      WRONG!!!! My husbands story is much the same. Nearly 15 years ago, in some off the grid back road town in FLORIDA he was with his “girlfriend”, they were both residents of North Carolina. Where the law is different. He was 24, she was 17. But in Florida, they were pulled over and carded. She (the 17 year old) had marijuana on her. She didn’t get charged. He did. For “Sexual activity with a minor 16/17 years of age”. We currently live in North Carolina, where the law does NOT recognize his charge here. He has been on the registry since we moved (back) here in 2008 after his judge in Florida deemed his case a “Romeo and Juliet” Case. As of 2016, He is still on the registry, we have attempted to have his record expunged, “No” was the answer. Nothing more from a florida attorney. No one will even look at this. The law here states that he doesn’t have to register after 10 years, WOOOHOOO, that’s coming up next June.. YAYYYY, Nope. Sorry wrong. The state of Florida requires that ALL OF IT’S REGISTERED SEX OFFENDERS regardless of their current location MUST REGISTER IN THEIR STATE OF RESIDENCE FOR 25 YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 25 YEARS!!!!! Oh that 10 year expiration in your state does NOT matter. I live here. Im living this. We have 3 children. 2 are high school seniors, both graduating this year, he may not even be allowed to attend the graduation of our daughters (my biologicals, not his) he only can if he checks in, and is followed around by an SRO officer. Can I tell you that their graduation is NOT on campus, it is in the local Arena. He has NEVER seen that girl again. She did not testify against him, he admitted to having had sex with her. But he didn’t admit to doing it specifically in Florida, but Florida still got him. And now they have him for the next 12+ years. By then, OUR son will graduate, he will play hundreds of basketball games, and even more award ceremonies, parent/teacher conferences. AND GOD FORBID I ever have to go out of town and my son gets sick, or hurt, his DADDY can’t even be there for him. He can’t pick him up from school, he can’t watch him in all of his accomplishments. He is a Business owner, HIGHLY recommended by every single one of his customers. Some know about him, some don’t. Some don’t care, but others might. Now our local News station has decided to list the “Sex offenders” regardless of their situation (maybe they got drunk at a bar and took a piss by their car) on a public forum, Facebook, and their regular website, for people to just start bashing him. As if it’s not bad enough our kids are constantly affected by this in one way or another. It’s awful. It’s wrong. This can’t be the only way to live life after one stupid mistake of opening your mouth. Im on a MISSION, hear me ROAR. This is wrong. Un-constitutional, and simply destroying lives. One of our old neighbors even stalked my husband. Followed him everyone. Took pictures of him talking to people, to children (our children) went to the local elementary school on more than 40 occassions and signed in under his name. He was arrested one year later for this 40 incidents of being at a school he had only once ever been to (he was given special permission the one time) yet, with sex offenders on the registry it’s a “arrest now, ask maybe later” kind of thing. They arrested him. He had to go to court and fight it. We won. For the time being. But she then posted his face on every pole in the neighborhood, because him being on the “registry” allows her to do so. Why is it just bundled up?? But, the guy next door could have murdered his mom 10 years ago and we would never ever know. Unless, we find his name, look it up, and the internet doesn’t help this either. Just because he murdered someone doesn’t mean his conviction will show up. It might. But it might not. If you google my husbands name, That registry comes up first, EVERY SINGLE TIME.

      • #17158 Reply
        Benjamin Harrison ll

        That Is wrong for one state you don’t live in where you didn’t commit the action to convicted you. It about money, the more people the police arrest, judges convicted, or prosecutors charge the more they get paid. It doesn’t if the offender is guilty or not. They don’t care about that, it’s that green piece of paper. I bet you if your husband was richer then hell then he would have either gonna a better sentence or off free. The system is wrong because of Greed!

    • #8610 Reply
      Privacy Matters

      My husband has been on the registry for nearly 15 years. He has NEVER paid a fee. (aside from his soul) Monetarily, anyway, not since he was on probation ages ago. But never for the registry.

    • #8611 Reply

      I understand how you feel and why you feel that way! I used to feel just as scared and betrayed as you do. I’ve gained a lot of strength from being a part of a documentary called Untouchable. I’m not ashamed anymore and I want to make chances with the law. It will not be an easy fight but I believe that if people required to register would stand up together (even with the fear of being recognised) we could have a voice. The reason laws keep getting passed is because offenders are too afraid to stand up against the laws the government wants to pass. I challenge you to find that inner strength and join me in trying to change some laws. Reply back if you wanna know what you can do to help in this cause! Keep you head up!

    • #8612 Reply

      Jeremy…. I agree with you and we can do things about this. The problem is most offenders are too scared to have their own voice. Let’s communicate about this. Reply back and I’ll give you my info so we can start working on this

    • #18460 Reply

      I wonder if these self righteous politicians ever wonder what it’d be like if the shoe were on the other foot. How many, for instance, have cheated on their spouse. A bunch I’ll bet you. So what if they were forced into shame like their little registry does for their misdeed and were never let to forget.

    • #20470 Reply

      I am on the sex-offender registry in Georgia I was convicted at the age of 14 for sex offense and was placed on the registry on my 18th birthday. I was put on probation for 20 years and they’re telling me I have a lifetime on the registry . I think this is ridiculous because I was a minor they are grown adults out there to do for worse than I do and get lesser punishment . It is very hard for me to find a place to work or to live without being harassed . I would like to stand and fight to get people off this registry and have it abolished because I think it is unconstitutional to get somebody’s personal formation out to the public when there are people out there that are murdering and committing arm robbery and other offenses that the public is not knowledgeable up . I hope and pray that one day soon this will be all taken care of and I can maybe have a normal life because my life has been ran by the Georgia Department of corrections for the last 15 years . No I wasn’t sense to prison but I have been on probation since I was 14 and have not had a normal life sentence . My son was put up for adoption and I don’t know where or who is with because of what I was in trouble for and it sucks because he is three years old this past August and I’ve never met him . I hope that one day the story can be reached out to other people and maybe help somebody take a stand that is not on the registry and help us fight .

      • #23625 Reply

        I believe that stories about Shauna and other videos depicting the harsh lives of sex offenders and their living, working conditions and about homeless offenders on the streets some with GPS is very compelling. But as a class, I believe we need an eye opening video, or videos of children of offenders on the registry and the impact on them receiving much of the same ostricism and disdain from the public in such a profound way that these kids are scared, they are bullied and beat up, made fun of and many many more retributive punishment that they are of course innocent of but are so extremely affected by way of association as a family member. We need some astounding footage of these kids crying and scared telling their story. Congress passed civil laws that have greatly resticted citizen offenders with out any thought as to the effects on offenders children. WE need to protect our communities, we need better safeguards for our children to be safe they said. Obviously the question that is so pervasive is this……How do these laws protect the innocent lives of the children of sex offenders? Collateral damage they say. What a Hitlerian way to explain this away. We need many more videos of children affected by these laws to really begin to crack the egg of the view of the general public. Dave Feige, this would be a wonderful opportunity for you to get footage of this colossal indifference put on these children of sex offenders.

    • #22430 Reply
      Raymond Shaffer

      I got a job.
      The owner gulped and was hesitant but agreed.
      The address worked out.
      However it was a vending route by the way, the owner made a route exsclusively for me.
      No schools.
      But the officer said if by chance. By chance i in

    • #24612 Reply

      It is time to abolish the sex offender registry, since my release from prison 5 yrs ago, I have done everything humanly possible to show that I can be a viable member of the community, completing an associates degree program, completing probation and even getting my rights restored, yet, everytime that I apply for a job, I am thanked for being a veteran, offered a job, only to get screwed out of a job, because of being on the registry. The issue is that these background checks are usually done between a 7 and 10 yr period, mine is over 10 yrs old, so the only thing that shows up is the registry, despite challenging these companies, they say they can go beyond that scope. How is a person supposed to live, if they can’t get a job, because the registry is a continued punishment, it does not protect anyone, which lawmakers want people to believe. My case is suspect at best, and was railroaded into accepting a plea and at the time, took it to protect my family from having to testify against the person who made the false allegations. If we are trying to reduce people going back to prison and being successful on the streets, the first thing that must happen is getting rid of the registry. In the past year, I have had to have my registry entries corrected, because Virginia either deleted or put in the wrong information on the registry, forcing me to having to go the state police (who don’t want the registry), to put my prints on another form to have the info corrected. A SCARLET LETTER>

    • #24999 Reply
      Alyce Blair

      The sex offender registry is only further destroying many lives and people since of self respect… I do believe that they are certain offenders who should have to register that’s the tier 3 offender and some of the tier 2 should register for a shorter time… As of now All 3 tiers are grouped together and when folks see a name Pop up on the registry that name and face become an immediate terminal cancer to society… Take my fiance for a example. He was arrested in TN and sentenced to 3 years of in jail phycosexual counseling and has to be on the registry for ten years… He was charged with “Criminal responsibility for a in the commission of a statutory rape” what it meant was his 15 year old son had consentual sex with a female over the age of 18 in his father’s home and his father didn’t report the yong lady to the police… The ex wife did and get this… The girl who he was said to be having sex with was given a 2 year sentence suspended and does NOT HAVE TO REGISTER… My fiance did absolutely nothing and this twisted up sex offender registry has nearly destroyed his life… Something needs to change now

    • #30512 Reply

      Thank all of you for sharing it is been so long since I found citizens having the same problems I face everyday since 1993 I have two beautiful children somewhere that I have not seen since then when my ex-wife accuse me of touching my daughters rear end while we were going through a custody battle where I had full custody of the kids I did my full sentence because I could not complete the Missouri sex offender program without admitting guilt and for me there is no way to do that because I was not guilty of sexually touching my daughter when released from prison I moved to Kansas where I didn’t have to register then in 2009 when Missouri made the retroactive law to require anyone convicted of a sex offense to register I had to start registering in Kansas even though I was not required to register by Kansas law I am required to register for life by the retroactive Missouri law I pray everyday that things will change after registering every 3 months since 2009 I actually forgot to register this past April I have been charged with a level 3 felony facing 10 years in prison I’ve lost my job we have no money we are facing losing our home and when we do I don’t know where my family and I will live I have faith that the laws will change they just haven’t changed soon enough my wife is Filipino and her father passed away in January I could not go because sex offenders are not allowed in many countries including the Philippines due to our USA passport restrictions one day when I win the lottery I will take it to the highest court and not stop until sex offenders are treated justly and their families are also treated with kindness and retroactive laws prohibited by our constitution are wiped from the books forever God bless each and everyone of you in 2018 I believe it will be a great year

    • #30546 Reply

      Erica Garner who just passed away at 27 years old said “I’m struggling right now with the stress and everything,” she said. “This thing, it beats you down. The system beats you down to where you can’t win.”

    • #31652 Reply

      I commend you for your courage to come forth in a public forum to receive the ridicule you obviously are and will face. Personally, I am in this category as well. I believe, with all the upper echelon of our society starting to be accused of sexual assault (news media description: sexual misconduct), we as a segregated group of people, discriminated against, stigmatized and persecuted by our peers as outcast have an excellent opportunity to petition the President, Donald Trump and our Congress of this great nation to “Abolish The Sex Offender Registry.” Why? Donald Trump if a common citizen would be charged and convicted of sexual offense at minimum, based on the news media. Bill Clinton would be charged and convicted of sexual offense, based on the news media. Over 100 men in Hollywood would be charged and convicted of sexual assault and other sexual offenses which are classified in most states as “Aggravated” offenses, requiring lifetime registration. Really! What is astonishing to me is our peers see no issues with people who kill people, drunk drive and kill people, rob and assault people, steal and break in to peoples businesses and homes, and never have to register for anything but their license, ID, food stamps, or job searches, or perhaps… disability. Really! Why is it so easy to see the “SEX” crime any different than terrorist, murderers, thieves, robbers, arsonist, credit card fraud…etc? The fact of this discussion is: Nobody should be denied the inalienable rights as a citizen of the United States, and the Constitution and Bill of Rights this Nation was founded on. I am appalled at the ignorance of “We The People”. I would propose as yourself, with almost one million sex offenders, we unite as the African Americans, the Gay Lesbians, and other groups to seek “Redress of Grievance” from our President and Congress. Our State legislation will only do What our Supreme Court of the United States makes “Law of the Land.” People change, Society Evolves, and we as a “class of people” should have the same rights, privileges, and quality of life as everyone else. We are not in prison! We have paid the penalty/s. Sex Offender Registry is Punitive, and Unequal Protection of the Law. I wish you and the rest of the “Alleged sex offenders” success.

    • #37422 Reply
      shimon weiner

      Im a sex offender,
      I was charged with a misdemeanor, “contributing to the sexual delinquency of a minor’ my victim was 17, we started seeing each other for about a year. The dates provided by the court shows we had relations 16 days before her 18th Birthday…she also had another case of similar circumstances’, I was sentenced to 18 month probation, attend a one year class, 2x polygraphs, a life registration, and Sex offenders are added to the FBI watch list. This was 13 years ago. I’m educated well skilled and have excellent rental history, I’m a single father of a 6 year old boy, who never misses school. I’m unemployed and homeless i live with family. Ive been rejected from dozens of rental apps, I have completed Interviews and receive welcome aboard letters only to be told when i show up they have “actually decided to go with someone else” thanks.
      I’m uncomfortable everywhere i go i cant help at my sons school, registration is a life sentence of poverty and and isolation.

    • #37415 Reply
      Edward Dragston

      A single national database with up-to-date information on registered sex offenders that all states could access would significantly help track sex offenders. Tighter controls are in place for sex offenders still on parole or probation who want to move out of state. They must apply to move, and the sending state must gain the receiving state’s permission and send an alert and address when the move occurs. No similar coordination is required between states for offenders who have completed their supervision.

      The U.S. Department of Justice provides a free Internet portal, sort of like a cloud database, for state registry officials to exchange information on offenders with another state.

      But not all states check it and not all police agencies have access to it. It’s also not available to officers in the field.

      The federal act also set up a national public website to search for sex offenders’ names, but it’s not comprehensive or up-to-date. It searches through the public websites of all states, but those vary significantly.

      A private vendor is trying to fill the gap with its Offender Watch Network. Thirteen states currently pool information about sex offenders in a web database that houses all information and history associated with registered sex offenders in a jurisdiction. Two more are about to join the network.

      It can generate immediate electronic alerts to police or sheriff’s deputies if sex offenders are booked into a jail anywhere in the nation. Police also can send immediate alerts to officers in other states if they know a sex offender is moving to that state.

      The U.S. Marshals Service began using Offender Watch late last year. Ultimately a person can leave the boundaries of a state, but until somebody makes contact with that person, it’s virtually unknown as to where they are. If a person wants to hide, they can do so and probably for awhile. So some people will suffer under a registry, but sometimes we have to sacrifice a few to try to capture the many who slip through and go on to destroy lives over and over.

      * I am sure there are exceptions, as you demonstrate on this site, but there are far too many real offenders slipping through the cracks, and too many lives being destroyed, especially children (yes a teenager is a child for all you making excuses for your lapses in judgment, alcohol problems, carelessness and too much time on your hands taking care of your own needs and not others). I am truly sorry for those of you who just suffered a momentary mistake.
      Registries are a smokescreen, but if they keep even one chronic offender off the street until something better is in place, I support them. Those of you that caught on the wrong side of the law, pay your dues to society and try to make something better of your lives. Live with your scarlet letters. The victims certainly have to.

    • #37420 Reply
      Edward Dragston

      Btw the way, in many states convicted sex offenders may apply for relief from registration after 10 years if you have only one conviction for a sex crime. That convicted crime must be a class C felony or a misdemeanor only.

    • #52152 Reply
      S Combs

      These laws are so unjust and to beat it all they can change it to suit them and not even let you know. My son was falsely accused of sex abuse in 2004 and
      because his lawyer scared us to death and urged him to take a plea he finally agreed to an Alford plea. In the agreement he was to register for 10 years. He should have been off of it by now but they recently changed the law and now his 10 turned into 20. And they didn’t even tell him.

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